“Flirt” is defined as to behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions.
“she began to tease him, flirting with other men in front of him.”
In the above definition of ‘flirt’, there is one word more important than all the others. It is playfully.
Flirting is not serious — or it can be, but disguised as playful banter.
If an attempt at flirting is not playful — or is clumsy and comes off as too serious — you will seem downright weird and awkward. Creepy. The key is this: Implication. You need to imply things rather than outright say them. Flirting is a subtle art.
Anyhow, with that little warning out of the way, let’s dive right into how you can flirt your way to sexual tension so tangibly thick you can strum away at it like the strings of a bass guitar.
But first...
Why flirt?
What’s the point of creating sexual tension?
Well, if you don’t create sexual tention, you’ll probably — at best — just end up her friend.
You see, women are like a mirror. If you treat her and talk to her like a friend, you’ll become her firend. If you treat her and talk to her like a sexy woman, someone you want to have sex with, you’ll become her lover. (or not. But either way, you won’t end up wasting your time as her “friend”.)
And so, if you want to bed women, not friend women, creating sexual tension is a must. And the best way to create sexual tension is to flirt. And to flirt? Well, here are two of the best methods, starting with...
Push-pull
Push-pull flirting is simple. As its name implies, you “push” her way — either emotionally, physically, or both — and then reel her back in with ther “pull”.
And, of course, push-pull flirting can be verbal,nonverbal, or a combination of the two. (For example, “Get away from me, you’re too cutre and tempting.” “playful shove”)
Now, why is pushing and pulling so effective?
Two main reasons:
1. You take her on an emotional roller-coaster. Up and down. Dopamine and adrenaline. It’s irresistible.
2. It shows you’re a high quality guy. You don’t just throw yourself at her feet.
To expand on the second reason, imagine you’ve met a girl who’s funny, charming, highly intelligent and smoking hot. She seems like she’s exactly your type.
But then imagine that she creates zero intrigue. She’s not hard to get and virtually throws herself at your feet. You’d be like, “Whoa, I thought she was a higher quality girl than that.” You’d lose a certain amount of interest in and attraction for her.
Push-pull also demonstrates that you’re not needy. You like her — at least you think you might — but it’s not really a big deal. You’re the one calling the shots and you’re just letting her see if she can win you over. Once again, you turn the tables so it’s her trying to win you over, not your seeking to impress her.
And most importantly — in my opinion — it’s fun! And it’s not just fun for you, women lap it up too.
Moving on, let’s take a look at another method of flirting. Once again, this method of flirting is playful and all around fun, and it also demonstrates that you’re a high-value guy.
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